Ken Sande, The Peacemaker : A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, Baker Books, 3d ed., 2004, p. 83.
To truly overlook an offense means to deliberately decide not to talk about it, dwell on it, or let it grow into pent-up bitterness. If you cannot let go of an offense in this way, if it is too serious to overlook, or if it continues as part of a pattern in the other person’s life, then you will need to go and talk to the other person about it in a loving and constructive manner.
Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, Baker Books, 3d ed., 2004, p. 83.